My ABC’s Of Living and Writing


A – Aspire to reach your full potential:

Nobody is going to make you try to reach your goals. Only you can do that, so decide what you want and go for it.

B – Believe in yourself and in your God.

Belief will get you a long way. Without belief in yourself and your God, you are setting yourself up to fail.

C – Create the habit of living in a positive frame of mind.

Nobody wants to be around a negative person for very long. If you stay around one long enough you become negative yourself. Never say “I can’t.”

D – Dare to do the things you’ve always wanted to do.

If you’re near retirement and you want to play pro football, it’ll never happen. But there’s no reason you can’t write about pro football or become a devoted fan of one of the teams. No matter your age, you can take part in anything in one way or another.

E – Eagerly greet each new day.

Every day is a gift. Be thankful for it and plan to live it to the fullest.

F – Forgive yourself for your mistakes and forgive others theirs.

Nobody is perfect. We all make mistakes. Learn from it, forgive yourself and go on.

G – Gather all the facts you can before you make a decision or begin a new project.

Often mistakes are made because one jumps into a situation before gathering the facts about it. If you want to write a book about the Civil War, read about it. Don’t place a battle in California. You wouldn’t buy a dress without looking at the size. Gather your facts before jumping in.

H – Help someone every day.

You don’t always have to do great things to help people or spend a lot of money. Sometimes help comes in a kind word or a simple whispered prayer or even a smile.

I – Indulge in daydreams for a few minutes every day.

Explore your imagination and let yourself pretend you’re whatever you want to be. If a writer is your desire, see yourself on the best seller list. If a singer, see yourself on stage. Whatever your desire is see yourself doing it.

J – Judge no one.

You never know a person’s background or their life story. You have no right to judge them.

K – Kill negative thoughts as soon as they enter your head.

Great thinkers have said that if your mind is always in a negative state, you will never be able to achieve any of your goals. Don’t let your thoughts keep you from going for what you want.

L – Live each day as if it’s your last.

Life is fickle. You might have an accident, fall in the bathtub, have a heart attack or any other million things could end your life. Don’t worry about these things, but be determined to live each day the best way you possibly can.

M – Meditate on the things you really want for the rest of your life.

Think about what you want often. There is a saying that goes; If you don’t know where you’re going, how will you know when you get there? You can change that to say, If you don’t know what you want, how will you know when you get it?

N – Notice the beauty of nature that is all around you.

Don’t get so wrapped up in things that you fail to see the rainbow and other wonders of our beautiful world.

O – Open your heart and mind to new ideas.

Boring people only know what they have experienced, but you can learn so much and your life will be enriched by learning from other peoples’ experiences and ideas.

P – Pray for yourself as well as others every day.

As my grandmother used to say, “A little prayer never hurt anyone.” She was right. If you’re a praying person it only takes a second to  say, a two or three word prayer for yourself and others.

Q – Question things you don’t understand.

Humans learn from asking questions, but some are afraid or too timid to do so. There are no stupid questions. If you don’t know something, ask somebody who does know.

R – Relax and calm yourself because worry never helped anything.

It’s hard to do anything when you’re tense and nervous. Remember, you might be writing the great American novel, but you’re not rewriting the Bible or Shakespeare. Relax and you’ll find you’ll do a better job.

S – Share what you have with others and if possible, do it in secret.

We all have more than we need. Notice I said need, not want. We  have food to eat and a roof over our heads and are able to pay our bills. But there are some who are not so fortunate. You never know when a small gift can change someone’s life. Do it because you want to, not because you want the glory of having given to a more needy person.

T – Thank God for the blessing of being alive.

Your life is important and it’s a miracle you’re even here. Think of all the little eggs and that sperm that fertilized them. What were the changes of that one egg and one sperm that was you would ever happen without a miracle coming into play?

U – Underestimate no one, especially yourself.

We are capable of being and doing more than we ever dreamed we could. Use your talents (which we all have in one way or another) and see what happens. Don’t be afraid and don’t give up.

V – Value the things that are most important to you.

We all have things that are important to us.  I care for a lot of things from my depression glass dish collection to my grandmother’s clock, but we all have our top priorities. My top things happen to be, my God, my family, and my writing – in that order. Make your own list.

W – Welcome each new challenge.

If everything came easy, life would be so routine that nobody would enjoy it. Finding and tackling new challenges keeps life interesting and helps us grow as a person.

X – X-Rate nothing in your life. Keep things on a higher level.

I’m not a preacher and I’m not trying to tell anyone what to do with their personal life, but for me, I don’t like porno on TV, in books, or on the computer. I’m not trying to censor anything because I have some cursing, sex and have touched on taboo subjects in my books,   but I will never write erotica because that’s not me. If you feel differently, that’s your prerogative.

Y – Yesterday is gone. Be thankful for it, but don’t live there.

Memories are wonderful and are a great source of material for a writer, but to me some of the saddest people in the world spend so much time thinking about the past that they completely miss the present.

Z – Zero in on your goals, work hard and don’t give up. They will happen.

Know what your goals are and keep them in the forefront of your thoughts, but don’t obsess about them so much that you don’t think of your real life. Don’t cheat your family and/or your friends by only thinking of your goals. And to go back to what my grandmother used to say, “A little prayer never hurt anybody.” And that includes you and your goals.

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One Response to My ABC’s Of Living and Writing

  1. Enjoyed reading these, Lynette. You are such an inspiration 🙂